Motivational Nuggets with Christian Collins

Why are we very quick to "cut people off"? One day we hold someone in high esteem, and the first time they do something  we don't like , they are fired! The same people who scream I love you on Monday are the same people who will help bury you on Tuesday. Lately, I've noticed an increase in the "cancel culture" trend—you know, a movement to remove status or esteem from a person, place, or thing based on offensive behavior or transgression. Guess what? I've experienced firsthand the backlash and associated feelings of not meeting someone's expectations, and it's very difficult to overcome. Usually, only the strong can survive such attacks. Witnessing someone "missing the mark" and then making a conscious decision to use your energy, time, and resources to intentionally expose them or cause harm doesn't make sense to me. So, before you "cancel," someone asks you the following: Am I faultless? Does this person have any goo...

Have you ever had someone tell you, "You've changed," and deep down inside you know it's less of an observation and more of a judgement?  I'll be the first to admit: I am not the same woman that I was at 20. I'm most definitely not the same woman I was at 30.  As I approach 40, I can tell you that every season of my life comes with a new mindset and a deeper understanding of not only who I am but also the importance of growing in understanding and knowledge.  Life demands that we  evolve  as we are confronted with our own incorrect thinking. It's not hypocritical to change your mind when you are exposed to new information, a.k.a., the truth. It's absolutely okay to contradict an older version of yourself. Do the work to heal yourself, even when it hurts. Put yourself out there, and don't be afraid of the perceptions of others.  Be unapologetic about your growth while identifying reckless behaviors.  Surround yourself with people who embrace you a...

I'll be the first to admit that I don't like asking for help. Not because I don't need it, but because I've grown accustomed to doing things for myself. Guess what? Eventually, carrying the world becomes too heavy, and you either crash and burn or simply neglect yourself to accommodate the demand. During the pandemic, I took much-needed time to reflect, and it proved to be beneficial. I learned that advocating for myself is just as, if not more, important than advocating for others. If I am well, then I can give "my best self" to others. If I communicate my needs to people who genuinely care for me, then I will receive help. It can be that simple. Now, I'm no fool; I understand that there will be times when, even after you communicate your need, there may be a void. But often, within the community (i.e., family, friends, and associates), someone is willing and able to assist you. So, here's the challenge: lean in. Simply put, let's normalize creati...

It's the time of year when many people reflect and set resolutions for the new year. The problem is, by February, many people have aborted the goal. I once read,Most people can change their lives in 12 months with sacrifice and determination, but some would rather say that's too long. So instead, they stay in the same situation for the rest of their lives.". Tips to complete a goal: 1. A goal must be specific. 2. A goal must be measurable. 3. Know your "why" before you start. 4. Solicit an accountability partner. 5. Record your progress. 6. Celebrate the small wins. 7. Eliminate negative self-talk. 8. If you don't complete the goal, extend the timeframe instead of completely aborting the process. Be uncomfortable for a year or two to be comfortable for the rest of the years to come!